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Alice

I joined Toughlove because of my son who was addicted to drugs for years.  I tried to take him to Rehab twice, but all was in vain because he was not ready yet.
His cricket career which he started at an early age was doomed.  He was very involved with it as a result he used to dream batting but drugs removed all those dreams.  He started stealing, was arrested and clearly could not take care of himself.
Life was very difficult for the family and his siblings.  Fortunately early
last year I met Cecelia who taught us how to take a stand and change our
attitudes towards our Problem People.  I thank and appreciate her for bringing
the TOUGHLOVE® Program to Langa.

In TOUGHLOVE®, I gained a lot of confidence, courage and my self esteem was
boosted again.  All that fear and blame has gone.  Depression was better than
before.  I did not know how to share this problem and as a result I now have an
objective to fulfill.  My attitude started changing since I changed my previous
approaches towards him.

With other mothers like myself experiencing similar problems, I encourage them to
 visit TOUGHLOVE® with their broken hearts.  I promise they will get help and
healing and be able to notice the symptoms of drugs from their children at an
early stage.

Thanks to Cecelia.  God Bless you.

(Alice has changed so much through Toughlove.  I see her now as a strong mother
and will not tolerate bad behaviour from her son.  She has been running the group
 for me when I cannot be there, and it is just amazing how she has changed and
become so self confident.  Cecelia)

Ernestine

The reason why I came to TOUGHLOVE® is because I had problems with my grandson
who was using drugs and his behaviour was very difficult.
Toughlove helped me to cope with my situation.  I learned that I had to change
the way I think and deal with my grandson.  It also freed me from guilt and
helped to build my self esteem and self worth.
I advise and tell people who are in this situation to come and join TOUGHLOVE®
because there is help for us who feel lost and helpless.

I say thank you to Cecelia for bringing this program to Langa.  I hope that next
year more people will join us.

Thank you Cecelia

(This lady is in her seventies and a real ambassador for TOUGHLOVE®.  Her life
is not easy but she always attends the meetings and encourages others to hang
in and to apply what they have learnt)

Milicent

The reason why I joined Toughlove was because I have an adult son who is not
using drugs but his behaviour was a problem.  He is not working and always
sleeps most of the day and he was not willing to do anything for me. 

At TOUGHLOVE® I learned how to deal with him and now he has improved a lot. 
It has made my life easier; I keep on attending the meetings because I want
to have more experience and also to help other people who need help.

Now I can invite and help other people to come and join TOUGHLOVE® and tell
them how important it is to get help with these problems

Gertrude

I joined TOUGHLOVE® because my son was abusing drugs and he started to steal
everything in the house.  I used to cry and get very angry and blame myself. 
I used to shout at him every time he did something wrong.

Since I joined TOUGHLOVE® I have gained a lot of information on how to deal
with these problems.  I have learned through taking a stand and making bottom
lines each week, I can take control and cope with my son.  I have changed a
lot and I have regained my self esteem and self confidence.

I advise other people with similar problems in their lives to join TOUGHLOVE®
so that they can learn how to deal with these issues.