The dangers of Hubbly Bubbly
SMOKING a hubbly bubbly or tobacco water pipe for one hour is as harmful as smoking up to 200 cigarettes, health experts have warned. The growing popularity of smoking flavoured …
Sheryl’s story
My name is Sheryl Rahme and I have been a member of Toughlove® since the early eighties. I joined Toughlove® because I had a family member addicted to drugs, he …
Sheralee’s story
ToughLoveBlogSuccess StoriesSheralee’s story Sheralee’s story POSTED ON DECEMBER 3, 2018 BY TOUGHADMIN Director and Coordinator for Glenvista and Northcliff Groups. advancedental@yebo.co.za 15 Years ago I joined TOUGHLOVE®. Six weeks later I decided …
Shannon’s story – recovering Bulimia Nervosa sufferer
In 1974, I was born in Natal, into a very loving and supportive family, who welcomed the birth of their first daughter and grand-daughter. My Dad – a Civil Engineer …
June’s story (not her real name)
Hi Andrea Will certainly keep in contact. I have been rushed to hospital on two occasions. Once because I collapsed at work. Staff came in and found me out cold …
Joan’s (not her real name) story – living with an alcoholic
I started going to Toughlove® as a friend told me that I was probably more dysfunctional than my husband who is an alcoholic. Initially I did not want to believe …
Gordon’s story
info@toughlove.org.za Director and Head Office manager Our son is a recovering heroin addict and has been clean for almost 7 years now, and without TOUGHLOVE® we would have never survived …
Dorothy’s story (not her real name)
My eldest son was a quiet, humble and gentle young man who had a good job and really did well for himself. He started being very aggressive toward us at …
Colin’s story (not his real name)
In 1998 my son started displaying bad behavioural characteristics and other mannerisms of a paranoid nature i.e. Not coming home until all hours, repeatedly damaging his car, enrolling for courses …
Anne’s (not her real name) Story
My younger son Colin (will be 26 years old in Dec) decided to move down to Durban to make a fresh start. He is now dependent on himself and his …
Where did I go wrong? – Madeleine Visagie
THE 3 C’S: You didn’t Cause it; You can’t Control it; You can’t Cure it. Part of the process of coming to terms with the addiction of someone you love, …
Whats in YOUR syringe? – Lorelie Rozzano
The fact that heroin addicts inject opiates into their veins, is not new news. But did you know their families inject substances equally as deadly? They may not get the …
What to do when an employee returns from rehab
https://www.business.com/articles/returning-to-work-after-rehab-how-to-help-employees/
Twins and addiction/eating disorders:
Addiction and Twin studies Genetics of addiction: Twin studies Twin Studies Help Define the Role of Genes in Vulnerability to Drug Abuse It’s In Their Genes: Study Of Twins Connects …
ToughLove Awareness article – Alice Mpholo Journalist Roodepoort Northsider
http://randburgsun.co.za/262598/tough-love-goes-a-long-way/?utm_content=buffer5b0f0&utm_medium=social&utm_source=twitter.com&utm_campaign=buffer
Therapies for BPD
Schema Therapy Dialectical-behavior-therapy-for-personality-disorders
The Serenity Prayer
God, grant me the Serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference At the end …
The Awakening
1. A time comes in your life when you finally get it…. When in the midst of all your fears and insanity you stop dead in your tracks and somewhere …
THANK YOU to Net Age for Sponsoring our Online Marketing!
As ToughLove South Africa is a registered non-profit organisation, marketing costs is unfortunately something out of our budget, even though we know that it is necessary to promote our services …
Talking to Your Kids About Drug and Alcohol Abuse: The Ultimate Do’s and Don’ts Guide
http://www.treehouserehab.org/talking-kids-about-drug-alcohol-abuse/
Suicide
Young people we know who have been suicidal are not, as popular belief would have it, suffering long standing depression. Rather they are mostly unrealistic, having expectations greater than life …
Six Major Parenting Mistakes to Avoid by Megan Devine, LCPC
Let’s face it—we are all imperfect parents in one way or another. Even though we realize that no one gets it right all the time, it’s still easy to judge …
Sex
“Do you think it’s right for a teenager to just visit a gynaecologist when she feels well, isn’t pregnant and isn’t asking for birth control?” asked Marie, a woman in …
Runaways
When we hear about teenage runaways we think of harsh families filled with drunkenness and poverty, physical and sexual abuse, and parents who don’t want their children. We think of …
Ritalin – latest high for students
What the article below does is to describe Ritalin and it’s pitfalls. An organisation however: CogniTune, LLC – “Smarter Health” is drawing much-needed awareness to safer and healthier remedies for …
Prescription drugs – when drug abuse is legal
Drug abuse is no longer limited to illegal drugs or hard drugs like heroine, tik or cocaine. One of the most dangerous and rising forms of drug abuse is legal, …
Prescription drugs – the deadly killer
Drug deaths now outnumber traffic fatalities in U.S., data reveals. Fueling the surge are prescription pain and anxiety drugs that are potent, highly addictive and especially dangerous when combined with …
Personality disorders
Borderline Personality Disorder: Treatment and Management. Dual diagnosis – Treatment BPD and addiction: A Deadly Combination Co-occurring Borderline Personality Disorder and Eating Disorders Possible Genetic Causes Of Borderline Personality Disorders
Partner or Spouse – abusing drugs or alcohol
What to do if your spouse is abusing alcohol or drugs You’ve watched your husband or wife struggle with an addiction to alcohol or drugs. You’ve seen them become dependent …
Overcoming years of addiction by running a new route – The Daily Maverick 24 July 2018
https://www.dailymaverick.co.za/opinionista/2018-07-24-overcoming-years-of-addiction-by-running-a-new-route/
Nyaope, Whoonga by Eileen Botha
Locally formulated drugs Nyaope and Whoonga – cocktails of among other things, cannabis, heroin, rat poison and antiretroviral medication. It is mainly used by teenagers. Thought to have been born …
MYTHS and FACTS on Hookah Pipes, Hubbly Bubblies Shishas Water pipes Arghiles
Myth: Smoking “hubbly” is better than smoking cigarettes because it passes through water Fact: Water doesn’t clean the smoke. “Hubbly” and cigarette smoke both contain poisons, including nicotine, tar, carbon …
Marijuana – What are the acute effects?
When marijuana is smoked, its effects begin immediately after the drug enters the brain and last from 1 to 3 hours. If marijuana is consumed in food or drink, the …
Is your man violent? – Helen Rayner
The death of Reeva Steenkamp has brought international attention to the issue of violence against women. On valentine’s day, 2013, she was shot to death in the bathroom of her …
Intimate partner violence (IPV) – Helen Rayner
Risk Factors for Violence in the Home Violence knows no race, class or age, yet there are specific risk factors that can make persons more likely to be perpetrators or …
Intervention eBook – What to do
Intervention eBook: What To Do If Your Child Is Drinking Or Using Drugs
I need to get high – Lorelie Rozzano
“I NEED to get high!” I am not your child, or spouse, or friend. I’ve changed. I don’t belong to you any more. I don’t care about you. Not in …
I am Chrystal Meth!
Heartbreaking! “I AM CRYSTAL METH ” This was written by a young girl who was in jail for drug charges, and was addicted to crystal meth. She wrote this while …
How Addiction Transforms a Family – Helen Rayner
Substance abuse is a very, very damaging thing for a family. When a family member falls prey to addiction, it can completely take over their life. Someone who was once …
Home after rehab
https://www.redfin.com/blog/finding-a-home-after-rehab
Enabling – The difference between helping and enabling, Lorelie Rozzano
ENABLING As a family member of an addict/alcoholic the line between helping and enabling is blurry at best. Many of you are asking, “What can I do to help? I …
Enabling – a meaningful definition
Definition of an Enabler An enabler is someone who promotes a specific type of behaviour in another person. The term is most often associated with people who allow loved ones …
Drugs and Alcohol
Any clinician in this day and age who overlooks and fails to check for drug and alcohol abuse as a primary component of negative teenage behavior is either irresponsible or …
Drug related death – a mother’s story
Dear Friends, It’s been almost one month since we lost our Danny. I vowed his death will not be just another drug related casualty and yet I don’t have the …
Discipline and love at schools – Prof Jonathan Jansen
Where there is tough love, there is discipline In the voluminous published literature in educational research journals, the word “love” hardly appears. Yet in our recent studies of Schools that …
Detachment
Ideally, detachment is releasing, or detaching from, a person or problem with love. Detachment is based on the premise that each person is responsible for himself or herself, that we …
Dagga tests mental health, study finds
The Daily Mail (week/commencing 28 Feb 2010) JENNY HOPE – LONDON Young people who use dagga are doubling their risk of developing psychotic symptoms experts warn. And mental health problems …
Co-occurring disorders
https://www.psychologytoday.com/conditions/co-occurring-disorders
Co-dependency and enabling the substance abuser
The definition of enabling in the Random House Dictionary is as follows: To make able, give power, means, competence and ability to, authorise. To make possible or easy. Now, what …
Choking game
When child’s play becomes deadly May 3 2013 at 08:47pm By Lindsay Ord On a Tuesday afternoon in June 2004, Gavin and Wanda Cocks found their 16-year-old son, Edwin, dead …
Bipolar disorder – shining a light on bipolar
What do Winston Churchill, Isaac Newton and Vincent Van Gogh have in common besides their fame and genius? They were mental illness sufferers – today the sixth leading cause of …
Bipolar
1. Doing nothing and hope the problem fixes itself Year after year, my dad thought like this. He always thought that it would work itself out. He ignored things that …
Between a rock and a hard place. The addict’s family – Lorelie Rozzano
If your family member struggles with addiction, chances are you’ve heard the buzz words. Care-taking, enabling, co-dependency, the list can be endless. As a newcomer to the world of addiction, …
Anger: Why are some people more angry than others
According to Jerry Deffenbacher, PhD, a psychologist who specializes in anger management, some people really are more “hotheaded” than others are; they get angry more easily and more intensely than …
Are you a mean mom?
Someday when my children are old enough to understand the logic that motivates a parent, I will tell them, as my mean Mom told me: I loved you enough to …
Anita Bosman
7 years ago, my mother was diagnosed with cancer and given two months to live, I was not in a very good place at all. Then my sister- in law …
Samantha’s (not her real name) story
I just wanted to let you know that I miss TL meetings and all of you, however as you all know I was in the process of opening my own …